Dating Violence

placer2In dating violence, one person tries to maintain power and control over the other through some kind of abuse. Dating violence is controlling, abusive and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of them.

1 in 5 teens that have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner.

If you are a victim of dating violence you might…

– Think it’s your fault
– Feel angry, sad, lonely, depressed or confused
– Feel helpless to stop the abuse
– Feel threatened or humiliated
– Feel anxiousNot know what might happen next
– Feel like you can’t talk to family and friends
– Be afraid of getting hurt more
– Feel protective of your boyfriend or girlfriend

Being a victim of dating violence is not your fault. Nothing you say, wear, or do gives anyone the right to hurt you. If you think you are in an abusive relationship, get help immediately. Don’t keep your concerns to yourself. Talk to someone you trust like a parent, teacher, school principal, counselor or nurse.

For 24/7 anonymous help, call the National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline at 1-866-331-9474.

Controlling behavior includes:

  • Not letting you hang out with friends
  • Calling or texting you frequently to find out where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing
  • Telling you what to wear
  • Having to be with you all the time
  • Verbal and emotional abuse includes:

Physical abuse includes:

  • Shoving
  • Punching
  • Slapping
  • Pinching
  • Kicking
  • Hair pulling
  • Strangling

Verbal and emotional abuse includes:

  • Calling you names
  • Jealousy
  • Belittling you (cutting you down)
  • Threatening to hurt you, someone in your family, or themselves if you don’t do what they want

Sexual Abuse includes:

  • Unwanted touching and kissing
  • Forcing you to have sex
  • Not letting you use birth control
  • Forcing you to do other sexual things